Married Christian Man Continues to Struggle with Opposite Sex Attraction

BABBLERS PRESS - Thinking marriage would cure his tendency to be attracted to members of the opposite sex, one Christian man now finds himself in a place of great disillusionment. 

"When I see a beautiful woman walk past me I'm still tempted to turn my head and look at her, " lamented the man. "I find her attractive even though she's not my wife. What's wrong with me? Am I a pervert or something?" 

​A noted Christian counsellor said it's not uncommon for Christian men, even married ones, to retain some level of sexual desire toward attractive women in general, even after they've committed their lives to Christ. For some, the attraction even increases. 

One self-professed heterosexual explained that he was depressed when he became a Christian and as the depression lifted his basic desires and appetites seemed to come alive, including his sexual appetite. "This was deeply disturbing to me at first," said the man. "I thought sex was basically an evil thing, something to be repressed, certainly not expressed or experienced." 

Through much counselling, the formerly depressed Christian learned that sexual desire is a God-given desire. "It's not evil in and of itself," he said. "Being attracted to women is not perverted, it's actually normal."

Meanwhile, the counsellor did caution that sexual desire, like any natural desire, needs to be subject to proper restraints. "The only biblically sanctioned expression of sexual desire is within the bonds of matrimony," he concluded. ​